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The verdict on childrens pamper parties
Pamper parties. Grown ups either love them or hate them. Some parents say "it's the best thing their child has ever experienced" to others who are utterly horrified that such things exist claiming they impact the natural development of children causing them to become more self obsessed.
Conservative society has even gone as far as saying "such parties are sexualising little girls and the use of make-up, nails, non alcoholic toasts are totally unnecessary as you are effectively teaching children to imitate adults".
The owner of TotallyPamper.me said: "I can't comment on how other pamper companies carry out their parties. I can only comment on how we do things here at TotallyPamper.me.
A dab of child friendly cream mask with some pretend cucumber eye patches, whilst your feet are soaked in a toy battery operated child's footspa is hardly mimicking the adult world.
A dash of glitter dust is not going to convert a child into a make up obsessed monster. Under no circumstance do we use adult makeup as little girls do not need to be costmetically enhananced which is what traditional make-up is used for.
I recently saw a top childrens pamper party company boasting about their new MAC cosmetic range and I admit, as a mother to two little girls, this alarms me as these are clearly adult make-up products designed for adult faces. Light glitters, glosses and shimmers designed for children is as far as we go and in my opinion, this does not equate to make-up which is why we refuse to freely use the term "make-up". Bindis, face art and face gems are child and age appropriate and are a great alternative. In fact, one could argue that face painting is a closer relative to make-up!
With regard to our flutes, the little girls are estactic when they get to hold our liquid sensored illuminated magic plastic flutes filled with flavoured mineral water whilst we sing the happy birthday song. There nothing better than holding an fluorescent object when we do the 'red carpet Hollywood photography'. We are certainly not encouraging the girls to imitate adult alcohol drinking. I struggle to understand how this would encourge a child to want to drink alcohol.
All we do is pamper little girls. We convert their living room into a girly zone with fun colours and we make them feel loved and special. We are imitating a spa experience using child friendly products and fun props and we offer a fun photo shoot at the end from which we send mums a slideshow and printed photography album. It's a lovely and very innocent concept.
The girls enjoy every aspect from the relaxing spa meditation music, the treatments, braclet making, popcorn, karoke, doing the strike a pose excercise and so on. And let's face it, it's a great deal more exciting than jelly and ice cream. I for one loved this concept. In fact, so much so that after I ordered a party for my 6 year old daughter, I decided to create a 'child friendly' business out of it concentrating on quality and value.
I've got two daughters and I can honestly say that they are naturally more inquisitive of all things girly such as dressing up, princesses and so on. My son on the other hand is into action men and Starwars! My girls love pinks opposed to shades like green or blue. Glitter absolutely makes their eyes light up. Now I'm not trying to reinforce harmful gender steriotypes but most girls up to a certain age do prefer girly things.
If you look into the psychology behind it, then perhaps us mothers and society in general are to blame for shaping our child's taste buds. There are plentely of arguments regarding gender parties, toys and products. Had I introduced my daughters to non girly shades, kept her away from princesses and hearts, dollies and dressing up from birth, then I'm sure that I'd have two tom boys on my hands. Or maybe not. Who knows?
My youngest daughter is only 18 months and I can honestly say, when she potters around the room with her tiara headband on, my handbag on her arm and my heels on (despite wearing them the wrong way around), it's the most beautiful thing in the world. No one encourages her to do such things. She is simply role playing.
Pamper parties are just a natural progression in the world of role play and imagination. They aren't a everyday thing. Just like chocolate, they are designed to be a rare treat. You get pamper salons for dogs and pets and so what's wrong in giving some 'child friendly' pampering to your princess? Everything in controlled moderation. Let little girls be girls!"